How to REALLY Apologize (part 1)

How to REALLY Apologize (part 1)

You know the scenario. Kid A does something to Kid B. Kid B retaliates with words or fists. You come running in to referee. You try to sort out the mess and at the end say, “Now, tell each other that you’re sorry.” Those words are usually followed by a squeaky, small, and insincere chorus of “sorry.” The word has been said, but a real apology hasn’t been made. This doesn’t just happen with kids either. We adults often fail in our apologies just like the kids. Watch my #FamilyFriday to learn how to really apologize.

The Best Way to Ruin an Apology...

The Best Way to Ruin an Apology...

Part of learning to be a problem-solver is learning to be a peace-maker. Owning and admitting our wrong in any situation is necessary to bringing a conflict to an appropriate resolution. Most of us ruin our apologies with a few simple words. Watch my video to learn the best way to ruin an apology…and how we can avoid this common problem. #FamilyFriday

Parenting is Not about Perpetual Comfort

Parenting is Not about Perpetual Comfort

Sometimes we have to resist the urge to protect our kids in order to pursue the higher goal of preparing them for the difficulties of life. This #FamilyFriday will help you discern the balance between protection and preparation and how we can work towards using hardship as a means to the formation of moral character and Christlikeness.

On the Matter of Time and Patience

On the Matter of Time and Patience

"Are we there yet?!" I'm sure you have heard your kids or grandkids say that question (among many other impatient statements as well). I got to thinking about why time seems so long to kids and so short as you grow older. Check out my #FamilyFriday on this topic to hear my theory and how that relates to teaching patience to our children and our pursuit of it as well.

Do More Than Love Your Kids

Do More Than Love Your Kids

We often have this idea that, as long as I love my kids, they will turn out alright. But because our kids have a deeper spiritual problem—a heart problem—they will need more than parental love. They will need salvation (as we all do!). So, in order to truly parent our kids, we must do what is necessary for their spiritual awakening and maturity. Do more than love your kids...read the Bible and pray with them.

Take Your Kids to Church...Especially When You Don't Feel Like It

Take Your Kids to Church...Especially When You Don't Feel Like It

Getting up and making it to church on time with your family (especially if you have young kids) might just be the definition of cruel and unusual punishment. It’s really hard to do the church thing as a family. And because it’s so hard, the temptations to just stay home seem so very powerful. But hear this today: Take your kids to church…especially when you don’t feel like.

Commit to All-Day Discipleship

Commit to All-Day Discipleship

The Scripture is quite clear that one of our chief responsibilities as parents is the spiritual education and discipleship of our children. The gravity of this task is sometimes overwhelming, but it is also a distinct privilege that pays immense dividends if we take it seriously and carefully. We often fall into one of two mistakes when discipling our kids…

"Staying in Love" Is Not Enough

"Staying in Love" Is Not Enough

So often we believe in a pale imitation of the truth. For instance, we often believe that the real point of marriage is to “keep the romance alive” or to “stay in love.” If this is our vision of love and marriage, is too small. It cannot bear the weight of real life nor does it understand the ultimate point of marriage. Take a moment to watch this #FamilyFriday to discover a more robust vision for your marriage.

Your Family and Technology

Your Family and Technology

I recently did a 3-part Facebook Live series on Your Family and Technology. A brief summary is provided before each video below. If you are trying to navigate this always changing landscape of technology with your children, you might benefit from watching these Family Friday segments. In part one, I wanted to provide a biblical framework from which to think about technology and how we might learn to redeem technology rather than be ruled by it. In part two, I tried to educate parents on some of the possibilities and problems of technology and give some action steps for how we can maximize the possibilities while guarding agains the problems. Finally, in part three, I provided some introduction on various tools and apps that can make technology safer and more helpful in the home.

Helping Kids through Grief and Loss

Helping Kids through Grief and Loss

Death is no respecter of persons. We learn this painful lesson as we experience life and become acquainted with the frailty of our own lives and those arounds us. In December, our church experienced the loss of a dear man who had teenage children. This got me to thinking about how we could help children as they face loss and grief. Here are some key ideas whether you yourself are working through the loss of a loved one or are trying to help someone else who is.

Is that It?

Is that It?

“Is that it?” This was the question written on my kids’ faces after we had opened all of the presents this Christmas. Actually, this is the question that most of us ask (or want to ask) after the holidays or some big celebration. We look around and think, “That was fun, but it didn’t really satisfy.” Join us today on #FamilyFriday to see how our disappointment can lead us to contentment.

The Power and Importance of Family Traditions

The Power and Importance of Family Traditions

Traditions are a powerful force in the life of a family. They are a needed element as you build the culture and texture of your family by forming and reinforcing what you want your family to believe, do, and be. Their power is in their ability to bring identity, stability, memories, and teach shared values. Learn more about the importance of family traditions in todays #FamilyFriday.

One of the Greatest Gifts You Can Give to Your Kids

One of the Greatest Gifts You Can Give to Your Kids

So many times, our family life becomes consumed by our kids and the activities surrounding our kids. We often get lost in the fray of these things because of a good desire to give our kids great lives, memorable experiences, and meaningful gifts. But one of the sure fire ways to destroy our families is to make it all about our kids. Join me today on our #FamilyFriday discussion as we learn that one of the greatest gifts we can give to our kids is a strong and loving marriage to our spouse.

Don't Judge Your Life by Facebook

Don't Judge Your Life by Facebook

You’re looking at Facebook (or Instagram or Twitter) and all of a sudden you think, “Why isn’t my life like that? Why is their life so perfect? I work hard at loving my spouse, raising my kids, and working my job. I deserve a picture-perfect life too!” Be careful to not judge your life by Facebook. Learn to combat Facebook Jealousy on this #FamilyFriday.